Full circle.

If someone would've told me a year ago that I would have Marissa's stepmother come and stay at our house for a week, I would've laughed in their faces and told them that smoking that much pot is bad for their brains.

If someone would've told me a year ago that not only would Marissa's stepmother come and stay at our house for week, but she would come for TWO visits, I would've recommended that they see a REALLY REALLY good shrink.

I've had several conversations with my friends over this, and each and every one of them says what a good, forgiving person I am for letting the past go, and moving forward with my friendship with this woman.

The thing of it is, I don't really feel like a very forgiving person.  I mean, I'm not swallowing my pride or anything by having her in our lives.  I'm not letting my anger go so that she and Marissa can continue their relationship.  I'm *not* angry at her, and I've dealt with my issues about this whole situation a long time ago.

I thought it would be crazy and weird to have her here visiting, but it wasn't.  At all.  In fact, we were all sad to see her go.  I cried when she left, and wished she could stay.

I know it's been hard for her, since her divorce with R, and it's been an issue that she's "technically" no longer Marissa's stepmother, even though that's what we all call her.  Bryan and I sat down and talked about it, and we asked her to be Marissa's godmother.

I know, we're not religious or anything like that, but the intent is the same.  If anyone is close to Marissa it's her stepmom, and I feel like she should have a permanent title, and a place in our family.

I'm blessed to have her in our lives.  I wish we could've been friends long ago.  I wish she lived closer to us.  I wish (and I know THIS is crazy) she could move in with us and be here all the time.

I don't just consider her Marissa's godmother.  I consider her my friend, and not to get all sappy and stupid or anything, but I haven't done a great thing here.  She has.  And I love her for it.

Comments

[Elaine]

Wow. See, I heard all about her a year ago and I am so thrilled that you all are in this place now. WAAAAAY better than the drama of before. So YAY to you all. I'm totally thrilled for you.

[Penny]

Wow. That was amazing.

And, I am wholly envious, having recently been introduced to my ex R's inbred, illiterate, underage, immature, icky fiancee. Very envious.

Good for you!Love to you!

[rubyjade]

You know whats so funny about the whole thing is at the reunion you refered to her as "my Christie". I didn't think I'd ever see the day. She seems like such a wonderful person Marissa can look up to, and a new lifetime friend for you!

[Nicole]

Sometimes we find friends in the most unlikely places, and I can think of a place more unlikely than your ex's other ex.

Good for you to being open to possibility! And yay for Marissa to have another amazing woman in her life. We can all use more of those.

[Teri]

Yep. My hubbie's ex is one of my best friends. I was all nervous/defensive/insecure meeting her, but she was so lovely and disarming and we became fast friends immediately. Yay! Good for you! (Or good for y'all, I should say!)