The first step is admitting you have a problem
Jul 11, 2008 So, here's the thing. It's time I admitted it:
I'm thinking of having another baby. Well, one last baby, to be precise.
Another baby. 4 kids, total. Four. Kids. I mean, it sounds CRAZY but I can't stop thinking about it, and I think it's something I really want. Sure, there are cons (diapers, AGAIN) but there are pros, too (kids are awesome).
Even though I'm becoming obsessed, I still can't bring myself to commit to a course of action. I figure the first step is being honest with myself. I'm not getting any younger, and if we do this I want to do it when I'm going to recover reasonably well. And before there's too much of a gap between Charlie and the next (possible) kid. And while I still have enough energy to deal with FOUR kids.
The other thing is, I can't think of anyone else that has more than 3 kids, that I know, either online or in real life. That gives me pause. Not that I'll have another kid to follow some trend or something, but it makes me wonder. Are they smarter than me, and that's why they stopped? Are they more mentally stable than I am? Am I being selfish? Is it unwise?
Even sitting here writing this, thinking about how insane I must be, I can picture having another baby. I can picture nursing another baby, the older girls helping give the baby a bath, and playing with the baby. I can see Bryan loading up the car with all 4 kids, and man. It makes me smile.
I guess we'll see.
Reader Comments (9)
I have this theory that it actually gets easier after you have two. By then you're used to multiple children and they become more helpful as time goes on.
Go for it! You make beautiful kids. Of course, I'll be hoping you have another girl. Because girls are awesome!
I'd say it's safe to say you "know" me. Online AND in real life. So, let's have another baby, then you'll know someone else with more than three kids. Right? That is some damn fine logic, if you ask me.
xoxox
Hi, you don't know me but I have 4 kids and it's pretty cool. Definitely not easy, but cool. We weren't actively trying for 4 kids, with two boys already we thought a girl might make a nice addition and took our 50% shot at it and ended up with two. Some people think you're insane, some people are in the same boat. Really it just boils down to feeling if your family is complete. If you're having the urge maybe not so complete yet ;)
I am the oldest in a family of four. My mom? Youngest in a family of four. So there, now you know TWO people.
I absolutely would have more children if I could. I love having so many aunts, cousins, sisters. The only thing stopping me is my custody arrangement -- I worry how my little guys would feel about a sibling who was always with mommy.
Also, other than their dad, I have shit for baby daddy options. I don't think his wife would like that. Giggle.
You, on the other hand, have an awesome guy who sounds like he's into the idea too. And, from what you have said to me in your own words, is a fantastic father. :-)
I have five, and so does my best friend. And we'd both have more if we could talk our husbands into it.
My brother has four. My sister has four. My grandmother had five. I met a lady once who had eleven and was still at it.
What are you waiting for?
Well online, Amanda, soulemama.typepad.com is expecting her fourth. Does that help?
My story, I'm 44, my youngest of three sons is 12. I've had babyfever for three years and just didn't get pregnant. I'm at the point now where I realize if I were to get pregnant I'd be the sixty-something mom at the graduation and my 20 yr old is really driving us crazy so the issues with him and the age thing has kind of balanced out my baby fever. But I always, always, always wanted four kids. I miscarried a few years ago and then never got pregnant again, so I feel this little bit of sadness about not having another baby. And for the record we have friends with 8 kids, friends with six kids, friends with four kids and of course the friends with a boy and girl and then they stopped. You have to do what feels right for you and your family. I'm one of those dorks that loves babies, I love concieving them, the morning sickness, the preggers gig, the labor, the birth and those sweet quiet moments at two a.m. when it's just momma and baby, the house is still, the baby has that new baby smell, it's really just all so good.
Good luck with whatever decision you make and you know once you have three kids, what's one more? Of course you'll be hunting me down when you have four weddings in same year!
Do it. You're a fantastic mommy who deserves to feel complete. If you feel something is missing, you're probably right.
I so wish I could talk my hubby into two more, I haven't given up yet. 4 is my magical number.
I love your idea and the stream of comments that follow. Go for it girl! xo